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Tips for Dating Success
Know what kind of relationship you´re looking for. Some of the Asian dating sites will give you a chance to specify, and all will give you a chance to talk later, if not sooner. Most feature the infamous "dating profile." Since the Internet offers plenty of avenues for porn, most people on the legitimate Asian dating sites are looking for relationships. Specify. Long-term commitment, marriage a possibility, companionship and maybe more, and "I don´t know" and "Let´s see what happens," are all legitimate responses.
Be honest. If you´re not, you´re wasting your own time most of all, because you´ll be found out. You´re also spreading bad karma. Supposedly over 50% of people online lie about their age 5 years in either direction. If you have a problem with your age, income, appearance, education, etc., fix them, or fix your head. It´s relative, so focus on what you consider your good points. You can count on the fact that whatever you have to offer, an Asian girl is looking for.
Avoid signs of desperation. The dream date, of course, would come on like James Bond, cool, confident, suave and sophisticated, with an air of mystery. Desperate people move too fast, say too much, and ask for too little. A man who´s "any" for all categories age, income, ethnic background, religion, children, etc. isn´t looking for a partner, he´s looking for a warm body. Pace your interactions to one or two emails a day, 10-15 min. IM sessions. Keep yourself under control. "Spilling" isn´t attractive. No need to write your life story the first time. That´s a turn off. Keep it light. Save something for next time.
Let someone else deal with the walking wounded. If an Asian girl starts off talking about her traumatic past experiences, or specifies things like "No addicts, no liars, no wife-beaters, no bankruptcy, no adulterers, no borderlines,no hate-mongers," etc., the Asian girl is showing you she´s not ready to date. I have compassion for these folks; so do you. Most of them will be fine with time and maybe you were thereafter your divorce or breakup. But I get paid to coach them to a better place, while you´re looking for a viable date right now, and a person with that kind of baggage has no business being in a relationship.
Be selective. A writer on one male advice website claims his great profile got him 56 Asian girls respondents last month. Men lie in the area of their prowess, but however many responses you get, be selective. You don´t have to answer them all. If Asian girls are really interested in you AND NOT DESPERATE, they´ll wait. Don´t have so many going at one time that you confuse the Asian girls, because you´ll confuse yourself. If the Asian girl you´re corresponding with gets your details mixed up, move on, unless you want to be just another pretty email in the inbox.
Give careful consideration to the area of sexual talk. Everyone recommends the other sex bring it up first. It doesn´t matter as long as it´s done tastefully.
Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.
Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.
Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.
Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.
Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).